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rl = real life as opposed to something in cyberspace.
sl = second life an online world.
Exploring and trying to understand the complex relationship people have between sl and rl. Why? Coz doin stuff like this is a buzz for me. I am still very nrw to sl.
When I first joined second life I noticed that in ones profile there is a tab that says “First Life”. I perved (slspeak look at someones profile) others profile and they nearly all said fuck off. So I did the same, admittedly with a haiku but in essence the same. Why I wondered. Why were people wanting to hide? Were they ashamed of who they were or were they immersing themselves in their fantasy? What are they scared of? Perhaps their real life is too drab and boring. lol. oops challenging a. lolol (It never is by the way they are just not living, seeing it properly or are victims). Life is wonderful. If yours isn’t change it. Jeez. So in my profile 1st life tab I will put info. sec doin it now.
When a thing is said the lips become very cold, like the autumn wind.
Londoner l’m Bipolar Manic Depressive. I’m 63 have 2 degrees been a carer most of my life. world traveler I blog. i make no distinction between rl and sl. i am the same in both.
I am a public figure. (I’ve had 64k reads on my book site 48k on youtube so I guess I’ve touched 100k people) Like anyone else who is striving to change the world. I do not want nor do not have a secret life. I have nothing to hide. In my view that is dishonest and almost the realm of perversion, certainly a persons character might be brought into question. By being “public” I am giving the world a certain amount of power over me. So what? What they gonna do kill me? hrumpf not frightened of death. So do I understand the dichotomy between rl and sl? I guess not.
But dear readers it is the persons choice. I am just observing. If you don’t like it leave a comment. Better still start your own blog.
Note : There is a Time Compression at work in sl. What might take weeks in rl can happen in a few hours in sl. It is intense.
In sl you can friend someone. This means you can see when they come online and when they go offline. They appear in your friends list. In the clubs there are people called hosts. They greet people and help them. They also keep chat going and help stimulate conversation. They facilitate fun. They also have the power to eject someone for unruly behaviour and even ban them if the unruly behaviour persists. I host in three clubs. Therefore i have work friends .
For private friends I am very slow to friend someone. I like to get to know them first. Before I friend them I ask them privately if they want to. This saves the person the embarrassment of declining. It is good manners. I have about 27 friends in sl, most of them women. Here is an interesting case that illustrates several points.
When I joined sl this time (I was there 3 years ago) on my second day I discovered this blues club. I was welcomed warmly. Anyway long story short I became a regular. I made friends and even had 3 partners. I eventually became a host. A person there I found a little forbidding. She was a star. I was impressed and a bit scared of her. A week ago I was invited to a friends place to see her new home. This lady was there. We all went on voice using our microphones instead of typing. Her voice was so warm and sexy and friendly and just plain nice. I asked her to be my friend and she said it was amazing we hadn’t become friends before. I was very pleased.
Last night I was hosting. I don’t know what I said or did but the Dj told me I had upset the lady in question. I searched for her in my friends list and couldn’t find her. I went to search typed in her name and sent her an instant message (im) apologising profusely and asking her what I had done wrong. She told me to leave her alone. I was very upset. I then realised she had de friended me. I was a bit distraught. I asked her to explain so I would learn not to make the same mistake again. She said she was not in sl to facilitate my learning but to have fun. Go away.
I resigned as a host for Softail. I sent her this notecard :
Sorry dear I am very upset where Aida is concerned. Because I said she talked too much she spread honey on my chest and poured fire ants over me. I was bitten by one fire ant in Thailand. It was terrible my whole leg up to my thigh was on fire. Dozens on my chest would cause absolute agony. . They have fire ants in Mexico.
I tried very hard to apologize. I asked her to tell me where I went wrong. She just said she was in sl for fun not to facilitate my learning. She de friended me.
Aida is much loved and respected in jyb but her “game” is far too tough for a gentle soul like myself. I will stay away.
Sorry Softy can’t host for you anymore.
I used to deal with the most depraved and violent offenders in rl as a Probation Officer, in London, on one of the worst estates in Europe, for 8 long years. So don’t think I’m a wimp. Its just that I’ve done my bit. I don’t always get sl “jokes”. Sorry.
I think it was this in relating it to a friend:
[02:25 AM] dudestarship2: What happened was that a very popular very nice person here threw me to the ground ripped off my shirt poured honey over my chest and tipped a jar of fire ants over me. then defriended me. it was because i made a joke that she talked too much
I have written that I am the same in rl and sl. If I make a friend in rl and they do something to upset me I do not disown them. If they come to me and say they are sorry and did not understand what they had done I would have sat them down, explained and ended up with a hug. Friends are precious. Not so in sl it seems. Perhaps it is because with a click of your mouse you can banish someone. Because you have made them angry. ooops anger is a rl emotion……………..
my chat friend sad:
[02:33 AM] aaa: OMG stop thinking real ,,, this is a game but unlike other games it connects to peoples emotions , I cried when dumped ,I cried when walked in on my wife dancing with a man , I cried when my husband in IW asked me to marry him .I cried when John decided to return to SL ,,, X has a SL wife no place for me but I wont cry this time because I have learnt to play the game
[02:34 AM] dudestarship2: thats why i’m introspective. this is a game?
[02:34 AM] dudestarship2: feels pretty goddam real to me
[02:34 AM] aaa: it can be a game that hurts
Perhaps the fault is mine. Sl is only about fun and is not a social community?
>>> Blog about how groups are described as families, everywhere
>>> Blog about how real families are created with parents, siblings etc
>>> Comment on people becoming brothers and sisters especially women
>>> Describe Partnerships and marriages and those that have moved from sl to rl
>>> Gotta do a blog on sex.
>>> Discuss relationships that have lasted years.
>>> REM emotions experienced in sl aren’t real
Best Stats I could find Jan 1St 2012 . How many people play sl daily?
on 01-17-2012 09:00 PM
There is a web page that posts the number of players logged in when the page is queried. There are scripts in SL that can read the page and give you the number. I have one in my house. It shows the most people online since I restarted it 1/1/2012 is 68,400+ and the least 30,800+/-.
Presumably some significant number of players do not login every day. I don’t.
Of the 600+ people in one of the groups I like about 250 of them have logged in in the last week. Some where around 375 have logged in within the month. About 200+/- haven’t logged in for a year. I can’t say this group is representative of all of SL. But, I think it does show a bit of a pattern. If one extrapolates on these numbers, we can assume the 68k is about 1/3 to 1/2 of those playing. That would mean there are 150k to 200k regular players pretty easily. But, these numbers don’t take time into account.
If one figures that as the planet rotates the population in SL changes… then we should use some multiplier for those numbers. Waking and sleep cycles change who is logged in. We peak about 2 or 3 PM PST. This suggests that Europe and east cost USA provide the peak players. About 12 hours later the numbers hit the day’s low. Knowing exactly how to divide things up is not possible. I can speculate there are 3 or 4 major groups of time zone players. If it is 4 I would say there are something like 800k daily players.
There are no good stats to show an accurate number of players. Tateru Nino posts stats. http://dwellonit.taterunino.net/sl-statistical-charts/
In general it appears user numbers are decreasing. But, with the addition of mesh, we are seeing a change in behavior of SL users. They spend more time outside SL building things for sales and use in SL. New World Notes posted an article on the change and SL’s placement in users stats for games. It too shows a change in user habits. These changes seem to suggest while SL is getting more players, concurrent logins appear decreased because time in game has decreased. More people are on for less time.
There just aren’t any clear numbers. The Lab doesn’t release detailed numbers. So, it is hard to know. We can speculate that if the numbers were really charming the Lab would be bragging.