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Cyberculture (Cyberkulture)

Yes I know it is spelt with a c. I spelt it with a k for two reasons. 1. There is a revolutionary in me [example : Amerika] 2. All the cyberculture (dot) whatever had already been registered. And squatted, none were being used that I could find. I got Cyberkulture (dot) com. OK? Update: Its ready. Has a video of this page for lazy scrollers

I will be weaving strands of ideas and hopefully we will have a nice comfortable sweater at the end.

Background: I did quite extensive research and could not find a definitive work on Cyberculture that was not younger than 8 years! It seems it was an idea waiting to become real. In my view, with the advent of high speed broadband; live streaming of high quality 3D animation; the streaming of sound (music / voice); the ability to create a credible online identity; to belong to mutual interest groups and sub groups and to develop both private and public relationships have brought cyberculture to age. Below is an illustration of such a cyberculture. The wiki quotes are from 2012.

Wiki says :

Cyberculture is the culture that has emerged, or is emerging, from the use of computer networks for communication, entertainment and / or business It is also the study of various social phenomena associated with the Internet and other new forms of network communication, such as online communities,

…….online multi-player gaming, social gaming, social media, and texting and includes issues related to identity, privacy, and network formation.

I am a member of such a community. It is called Second Life. It is in 3d. There is a continuing debate as to whether it is real. Let me give you some idea what second life is like. Then we will see if it is real or not. Firstly let us look at Identity a key feature of any culture.

Culture

I have been asked why I have gone into so much detail further on about second life. A definition of culture from The Center Of Advanced Research on Language Acquisition (CARLA) has this definition:

…….culture is defined as the shared patterns of behaviors and interactions, cognitive constructs, and affective understanding that are learned through a process of socialization.

A key word is pattern because in culture we see patterns of behaviour but we also see cognitive patterns, ways of thinking. Further on that link we see a term “Cognitive Programming”. “Honour” may be seen as a cultural cognitive construct, in some cultures it is worth killing for and dying for. However there may be a more base level in that of perception. A couple of studies comparing Japanese and Americans showed differences in perception summed up in the phrase “Why do Easterners remember the forest while Westerners remember the trees?” See Psychology Today May 2012 . From my own experience of living in Japan for four years and studying the language and culture, I noticed that a gaijin (non Japanese ) would view a room containing just an alcove with a vase and scroll (tokonoma) as empty; space is seen as a negative construct, an absence, whereas the Japanese would see space as being a positive construct, an entity in its own right. This is cultural bias.This occurs through a process of cultural socialization..

Therefore the detail I have gone into is an attempt to show a process of cultural socialization occurs within second life. However, in the general sense this may appear somewhat weak. Undoubtedly many people treat second life as just a game. Therefore I have gone to lengths showing the construction and dressing of the avatar. Socialization occurs here but really it is through language and interaction. As you will see, the example I give within second life is that of the blues culture. This in itself is a culture. The blues is a powerful expression of life’s vagaries, its joys and heartbreak, that is shared with everyone through blues music. In my view this adds great strength to the argument that a cyberculture / cybercommunity exists within second life.
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Avatars

Avatars

Firstly you have an avatar. The free ones are noticeably free. The first thing people do is buy a shape. There is a currency called lindens and you can buy lindens with your credit card. Secondly you will need clothes, you buy these too. Here is a picture of me, I mean my avatar (hm interesting slip a ). You have the option to chose a name. I am Dude Starship. Above my head it just says Dude. (Yes It was a courageous move to chose “Dude”. I suffered a tad but now I am Dude and sometimes The Dude. Yes I still get “Dude, where’s my car?” I answer with a remark like “Its in the swimming pool”). You are now fit to mingle with other avatars as an equal.If you do not do this you will be seen as a noob or newbie and, tho welcomed, will not be taken seriously. You have not made a commitment to the …I hesitate because to call it a community would be presumptuous at this stage. You understand.

Avatar Profile

If you right click on an avatar you get a menu , on it, is profile. Clicking on it brings up the full profile in a box on the screen.. There is a lot of information on the first page. There is artwork, your profile picture. There are varying degrees of image skills portrayed varying from a simple head and shoulders to a complex Photoshop enhanced image. This picture speaks volumes. Your screen name (Dude) and your login name (dudestarship2); your date of second life birth plus number of days and whether you have payment info. Under this is a box which says if you have a partner. a partner is someone you have made a commitment to, some call it marriage. Then there is a box listing the groups you belong to. Great indicator of what you do in second life. You can belong to 42. Below this you can write anything you like (500). Perhaps the most common is a summing up of your attitude to life (first and second), the universe and everything (apologies to Douglas Adams). Mine says:

Latest Motto: Live Fast Ride Hard, Die Laughing.. I’m English we tend to make fun of things we love. I met a Valkyrie she is my gf. she sometimes appears as an Angel. Shes called Catty

I live by the four Brahma Viharas, (Dwelling Places of God) : Friendliness, Compassion, Equanimity and Sympathetic Joy.

“The moving finger writes and having writ moves on. Nor all your piety nor wit can lure it back to cancel half a line nor all your tears wash out a word of it.”

“The moving finger…etc” Is from the Rubaiyat, Omar Khayyam.It is so appropriate for chat. Once you have pressed the enter key ….”…nor all your tears wash out a word of it”

At the top are tabs. There are :

Web : Often left blank but some put in a video, their blog or a website. (I have my own irishsecure (dot) com, designed for this space)
Interests: This is where you tick various elements in second life, building, scripting, textures, whether you want work or hiring and more. There is also space to list languages spoken and skills.
Picks: Here you can list those places or people who are special to you in second life. There is a picture with text underneath. This tells a lot about a person.
Classifieds: You can put an ad here
1st Life: There is space for a real life picture. It is very very rare to see a real picture of the person. Underneath is a box for text. The text ranges from “Don’t Ask” to “Ask”.. It is very very rare to find real life information.
Notes: This is your space to put what you like e.g. likes long skirts eats chocolates very funny bit stupid etc etc. This is not visible to the avatar.

N.B. One of the things that you can do is “friend” someone. They become your friends and can see when you come online or offline. They appear in your friends list which means you can contact them no matter where they are in second life. You can also give them the ability to see you on their map and give them the ability to modify objects owned by you.

So we have a well dressed pleasing shape, with a name, dressed in nice clothes. We have a profile and we can view others.

Identity is pretty well established however it cannot be complete until you interact.

Chat Box

Chat In Second Life

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Chat In Second Life

Source: 21stCN

Chat

Chat

There are two systems of communication : a chat box and using voice (microphone). In public areas voice is often disabled. The chat is a resizeable box where you can place anywhere on the screen and it is divided . On the left is the name of the person or group who is speaking, next to it is the text itself. There are three types of messaging: Local where everyone chats, this is public and instant messaging which is avatar to avatar and is private. There is also group messaging where members of the same group chat. This can get quite hectic as you may be having several private chats while following the thread of public chat and group chat. Its called multitasking and women are better at it than men. However it is a skill that can be mastered. By the way the ratio of women to men is 5 to 1. Yippee its a great pick up joint.

You are interacting with fellow members.

The Chat Room

Oh My God! You can find loads of videos on my blog. sl (dot) irishsecure (dot) com. However let me describe one I know well. In second life there are clubs, just like in real life. On my second day I found a blues club called The Junkyard. This “chat room” comfortably holds 50 avatars. By the way avatars are the same size or a tad bigger than real life. Dude is 7ft 6 ins. The Junkyard has blue tiles and is open air with the theme based in the Gulf of Mexico, Florida. In the centre is a stage where the DJ is situated. The DJ has a microphone and controls the music stream so plays his / her choice and introduces the tunes. They are real DJs. AND they take requests and dedications. A session lasts two hours. The DJs cover about 18 hours a day seven days a week. There is also a host assisting the DJ. The host meets and greets new arrivals, keeps local chat alive, can give out group memberships and offers help to anyone who might send an instant message. He or she has a close relationship with their DJ. The host also has the power to eject a person from the dance floor into the near by sea if they annoy other avatars. They can also ban the person permanently from the club. I am a host in The Junkyard 12 hours a week. The club is open 24/7 and a blues channel radio is put on when there are no DJ.

You have a space to interact in.

The Junkyard

The Junkyard Blues Club

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The Junkyard Blues Club

Animation

Animation

Your avatar is animated however the animations that are free look free. It is the general rule that you buy something called an AO. For example Dude will stroll casually with his hands in his pockets, when stationary he (oh dear > “he”) will assume a pose, looking cool. The animations in second life are superb, the dance animations more so. The best dance animations are made by filming real dancers and using stop motion techniques create animations. Many couples go to The Junkyard. In two corners are dance balls. One for couples, one for males and one for females. All the balls have a menu of about 15 dance styles. These range from jive to extremely sensual dances. There are many clubs in second life catering to every musical taste.

Imagine then a 3D chat room where you, an entity, chat with friends , dancing as a beautiful avatar, while listening to a live DJ playing your favourite tunes.

Animation Dance

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The Blues Culture of Second Life

A woman’s baby died and she could not give it up. After a week went by her friends pressed her to go and see The Buddha. He said to her “Yes I can make your child alive but first you must collect 3 grains of rice from a household that has not known sorrow” Of course the story is clear, she was unable to do this and in the process discovered that life was concomitant with sorrow. A western way to realise this is through the blues. In second life all nationalities are represented but in my view the national boundaries, cultural socializations are subsumed under a greater rubric that of human suffering and also there is an expression of human awareness, triumph over adversity and joy. Not all blues is sad by any means. However the point to be made is that it provides a very powerful cultural medium.

N.B. My avatar is 7ft 6ins 228 cms

Junkyard Blues

Culture and Reality

We have firmly established the presence of a network; a representative of yourself that you have tailor made to express your identity and the ability to interact at varying degrees of privacy and intimacy.

“Cyberculture, like culture in general, relies on establishing identity and credibility.” We have seen how with the creation of an avatar an identity is created that is credible. “However, in the absence of direct physical interaction, it could be argued that the process for such establishment is more difficult.” Not in Second Life. Sure it takes some skill but through observation of your peers and those that have been “in world” for some years, an identity that is appealing and “fits” is not difficult. Your avatar represents you.

Culture

Wiki : Specifically, the term “culture” in American anthropology had two meanings: (1) the evolved human capacity to classify and represent experiences with symbols and to act imaginatively and creatively; and (2) the distinct ways that people living in different parts of the world classified and represented their experiences, and acted creatively. Distinctions are currently made between the physical artifacts created by a society its so-called material culture and everything else, the intangibles such as language, customs, etc. that are the main referent of the term “culture”.

Looking at second life we can see a commonalty that gives second life its culture. A society if you will. Firstly there are avatars in many and varied shapes but still avatars collectively with profiles. The 3D space has global characteristics that are present everywhere. Chat everywhere is the same. Viewers to view and interact any scene are broadly the same. There is a market place that anyone can access containing thousands and thousands of items that can be bought with lindens. There is a multiplicity of nations yet all conform broadly to standards. There are TOS which are adhered to. There are mutual interest groups. There are friends. In second life there are ratings which have their own regulations. These are general, mature and adult. You cannot for example be naked in a general area. In a 24 hour period there are between 30k and 50k people in second life. Avatars (people?) fall in love, fight and have sex.

An important feature of second life is the ability to own your own space. This may be a house, an island or land. i have a small tropical island. When I got it it had a few palm trees. It has taken me weeks to create what is now my second life home. Others I have visited are unique to that person. adjusting arranging can take hours as well as shopping for that perfect vase. Just as your home in real life reflects your personality so does your home that you have created in second life.

Second Life is a cyberculture but is it real?

Reality

We would say the mind body complex existing in a physical space, is us experiencing reality. However if I am communicating with another person, whether or not we occupy the same physical space this is also real. This communication can be via a keyboard and is in real time therefore it is real. In second life the chat is real. I may be a 63 year old male yet wear a female avatar and giggle when boys make jokes. My avatar my representation may be completely false i am treating second life as something real only to my avatar. Some say that second life is not real because the avatar is merely a construct. But it is the physical me who is manipulating the avatar, just as a puppeteer pulls the puppets strings. The puppet isn’t real, the puppeteer is.

Human beings have an incredible ability to adopt a persona. Just look at actors who do it with consummate skill. They are not surrounded by the environment we see on screen but are surrounded by lights scenery cameras and lots of other people. Still they are able to act an intimate love scene as tho they were the only two people in the world.

What if on your computer screen I put a life like “person” and when I typed the “person” said the words? What if the scene was that of a club and out of the speakers a DJ spoke your name? What if others there would greet you as a friend? What if you were flattered and felt at home? What if you danced with an attractive partner, danced with grace and skill?

What if you fell in love?

Undoubtedly real relationships are formed.Friendships last years and through private messaging the real person shares their real life. Their real name, family details, work, where they live (Yes this has resulted in real life stalking). Photographs, real life, are shared… Partnerships formed in second life have led to the two people getting together in the real world. Great emotionality is generated in second life. Avatars do not experience emotion. In my opinion those that say second life is just a “game” are wrong. There is confusion. Read this :

[02:33 AM] aaa: OMG stop thinking real ,,, this is a game but unlike other games it connects to peoples emotions , I cried when dumped ,I cried when walked in on my wife dancing with a man , I cried when my husband in IW asked me to marry him .I cried when John decided to return to SL ,,, X has a SL wife no place for me but I wont cry this time because I have learnt to play the game
[02:34 AM] dudestarship2: thats why i’m introspective. this is a game?
[02:34 AM] dudestarship2: feels pretty goddam real to me
[02:34 AM] aaa: it can be a game that hurts

A friend sent me this:

[4:21 AM] Sxxx: Interesting case study for you, 2 people have been together in SL, very close relationship, contact through email and chat outside SL, know quite a bit about each other’s real lives, have shared lots of good times and bad times, had rows and love, split up, got back together, know each other’s deepest darkest secrets, are incredibly loyal to each other, gotten totally under each others skin, and expect to stay in contact of some kind till the internet collapses, but have no likelihood of meeting in rl, and although he knows her real name, she has no idea what his is, even after 3 years.

Another friend said:

[07:30 AM] Mxxx: I always ask people who think SL is a game what the rules are and how do you “win”

Those that say second life and real life are distinct separate entities are wrong in my view, but some treat it so it seems. We have a debate here I think. Please comment.

Personally…………

I cannot sign this Dude nor can I sign it Philip its

Dude / Philip

A closer look at my home called Lamu

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Comming of age in second life

Abstract:

Millions of people around the world today spend portions of their lives in online virtual worlds. Second Life is one of the largest of these virtual worlds. The residents of Second Life create communities, buy property and build homes, go to concerts, meet in bars, attend weddings and religious services, buy and sell virtual goods and services, find friendship, fall in love–the possibilities are endless, and all encountered through a computer screen. Coming of Age in Second Life is the first book of anthropology to examine this thriving alternate universe.

Tom Boellstorff conducted more than two years of fieldwork in Second Life, living among and observing its residents in exactly the same way anthropologists traditionally have done to learn about cultures and social groups in the so-called real world. He conducted his research as the avatar “Tom Bukowski,” and applied the rigorous methods of anthropology to study many facets of this new frontier of human life, including issues of gender, race, sex, money, conflict and antisocial behavior, the construction of place and time, and the interplay of self and group.

Coming of Age in Second Life shows how virtual worlds can change ideas about identity and society. Bringing anthropology into territory never before studied, this book demonstrates that in some ways humans have always been virtual, and that virtual worlds in all their rich complexity build upon a human capacity for culture that is as old as humanity itself.

Tom Boellstorff is professor of anthropology at the University of California, Irvine.

You can read it here ...I’m not an anthropologist. I’m an educated user. I am biased. Dude Starship and I are aspects of the same entity. He even has his own domain DudeStarship.com This hub is an intellectual exercise that has and will evolve into a synthesis of identity. We are all cyborgs now.

We Are All Cyborgs Now

 

A Transcript of the video:

I would like to tell you all that you are all actually cyborgs, but not the cyborgs that you think. You’re not RoboCop, and you’re not Terminator, but you’re cyborgs every time you look at a computer screen or use one of your cell phone devices. So what’s a good definition for cyborg? Well, traditional definition is “an organism to which exogenous components have been added for the purpose of adapting to new environments.” That came from a 1960 paper on space travel, because, if you think about it, space is pretty awkward. People aren’t supposed to be there. But humans are curious, and they like to add things to their bodies so they can go to the Alps one day and then become a fish in the sea the next.

So let’s look at the concept of traditional anthropology. Somebody goes to another country, says, “How fascinating these people are, how interesting their tools are, how curious their culture is.” And then they write a paper, and maybe a few other anthropologists read it, and we think it’s very exotic. Well, what’s happening is that we’ve suddenly found a new species. I, as a cyborg anthropologist, have suddenly said, “Oh, wow. Now suddenly we’re a new form of Homo sapiens, and look at these fascinating cultures, and look at these curious rituals that everybody’s doing around this technology. They’re clicking on things and staring at screens.”

Now there’s a reason why I study this, versus traditional anthropology. And the reason is that tool use, in the beginning — for thousands and thousands of years, everything has been a physical modification of self. It has helped us to extend our physical selves, go faster, hit things harder, and there’s been a limit on that. But now what we’re looking at is not an extension of the physical self, but an extension of the mental self, and because of that, we’re able to travel faster, communicate differently. And the other thing that happens is that we’re all carrying around little Mary Poppins technology. We can put anything we want into it, and it doesn’t get heavier, and then we can take anything out. What does the inside of your computer actually look like? Well, if you print it out, it looks like a thousand pounds of material that you’re carrying around all the time. And if you actually lose that information, it means that you suddenly have this loss in your mind, that you suddenly feel like something’s missing, except you aren’t able to see it, so it feels like a very strange emotion.

The other thing that happens is that you have a second self. Whether you like it or not, you’re starting to show up online, and people are interacting with your second self when you’re not there. And so you have to be careful about leaving your front lawn open, which is basically your Facebook wall, so that people don’t write on it in the middle of the night — because it’s very much the equivalent. And suddenly we have to start to maintain our second self. You have to present yourself in digital life in a similar way that you would in your analog life. So, in the same way that you wake up, take a shower and get dressed, you have to learn to do that for your digital self. And the problem is that a lot of people now, especially adolescents, have to go through two adolescences. They have to go through their primary one, that’s already awkward, and then they go through their second self’s adolescence, and that’s even more awkward because there’s an actual history of what they’ve gone through online. And anybody coming in new to technology is an adolescent online right now, and so it’s very awkward, and it’s very difficult for them to do those things.

So when I was little, my dad would sit me down at night and he would say, “I’m going to teach you about time and space in the future.” And I said, “Great.” And he said one day, “What’s the shortest distance between two points?” And I said, “Well, that’s a straight line. You told me that yesterday.” I thought I was very clever. He said, “No, no, no. Here’s a better way.” He took a piece of paper, drew A and B on one side and the other and folded them together so where A and B touched. And he said, “That is the shortest distance between two points.” And I said, “Dad, dad, dad, how do you do that?” He said, “Well, you just bend time and space, it takes an awful lot of energy, and that’s just how you do it.” And I said, “I want to do that.” And he said, “Well, okay.” And so, when I went to sleep for the next 10 or 20 years, I was thinking at night, “I want to be the first person to create a wormhole, to make things accelerate faster. And I want to make a time machine.” I was always sending messages to my future self using tape recorders.

But then what I realized when I went to college is that technology doesn’t just get adopted because it works. It gets adopted because people use it and it’s made for humans. So I started studying anthropology. And when I was writing my thesis on cell phones, I realized that everyone was carrying around wormholes in their pockets. They weren’t physically transporting themselves; they were mentally transporting themselves. They would click on a button, and they would be connected as A to B immediately. And I thought, “Oh, wow. I found it. This is great.”

So over time, time and space have compressed because of this. You can stand on one side of the world, whisper something and be heard on the other. One of the other ideas that comes around is that you have a different type of time on every single device that you use. Every single browser tab gives you a different type of time. And because of that, you start to dig around for your external memories — where did you leave them? So now we’re all these paleontologists that are digging for things that we’ve lost on our external brains that we’re carrying around in our pockets. And that incites a sort of panic architecture — “Oh no, where’s this thing?” We’re all “I Love Lucy” on a great assembly line of information, and we can’t keep up.

And so what happens is, when we bring all that into the social space, we end up checking our phones all the time. So we have this thing called ambient intimacy. It’s not that we’re always connected to everybody, but at anytime we can connect to anyone we want. And if you were able to print out everybody in your cell phone, the room would be very crowded. These are the people that you have access to right now, in general — all of these people, all of your friends and family that you can connect to.

And so there are some psychological effects that happen with this. One I’m really worried about is that people aren’t taking time for mental reflection anymore, and that they aren’t slowing down and stopping, being around all those people in the room all the time that are trying to compete for their attention on the simultaneous time interfaces, paleontology and panic architecture. They’re not just sitting there. And really, when you have no external input, that is a time when there is a creation of self, when you can do long-term planning, when you can try and figure out who you really are. And then, once you do that, you can figure out how to present your second self in a legitimate way, instead of just dealing with everything as it comes in — and oh, I have to do this, and I have to do this, and I have to do this. And so this is very important. I’m really worried that, especially kids today, they’re not going to be dealing with this down-time, that they have an instantaneous button-clicking culture, and that everything comes to them, and that they become very excited about it and very addicted to it.

So if you think about it, the world hasn’t stopped either. It has its own external prosthetic devices, and these devices are helping us all to communicate and interact with each other. But when you actually visualize it, all the connections that we’re doing right now — this is an image of the mapping of the Internet — it doesn’t look technological. It actually looks very organic. This is the first time in the entire history of humanity that we’ve connected in this way. And it’s not that machines are taking over. It’s that they’re helping us to be more human, helping us to connect with each other.

The most successful technology gets out of the way and helps us live our lives. And really, it ends up being more human than technology, because we’re co-creating each other all the time. And so this is the important point that I like to study: that things are beautiful, that it’s still a human connection — it’s just done in a different way. We’re just increasing our humanness and our ability to connect with each other, regardless of geography. So that’s why I study cyborg anthropology.

Thank you.

Of course I am a cyborg and with my avatar I am one hell of a cyborg. The blurring of the lines between “Man and Machine” has never been so self evident As machines get more intelligent more skilled these lines will disappear.

Cyberculture Main Stream cyberrealism

Gorillaz are a main stream band who use avatars in their videos, In this video we see a wonderful mixture of the real and the cyber to tell a story. (Stylo 13 million views) I include it here as an example of what I call cyberrealism. Another neologism but one that has been coined before. The cyber is main stream.

The story is a dual between avatars (Gorillaz) and Bruce Willis.The avatars win. Take note of the ending. Avatars are malleable and can adapt to any environment.

So, perhaps that is a little tongue-in-cheek. Watch the video please.

  • 88% Yes
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Partner 1

In second life you can have a partner.You meet someone, fall in love and say Hey Lets Show The World We Are A Couple and its permanent. You think This Is The One and I will spend the rest of nt sl life  with this person. I met XoXo in the junkyard blues club. I had found it on my second day. Nice friendly atmosphere, I listened  to the chat too scared to speak. I looked at their profiles many of them had been here years. They were all very attractive. I was a noob ( A new person with a free shape not attractive. ) In their profiles they all had “Payment info used”. I thought hmmm what is this? Age verified? Then Ha Got it! They had bought lindens with a credit card.  Right what I needed was a decent shape avatar. I thought to myself who are the  coolest dudes on the planet? The Italians! I put some money on my credit card , a good bit and went hunting for an Italian Avatar. Found one “Donato” Lookin cool Dude. Bought a leather jacket some jeans and boots. AND OF COURSE some sunglasses.

I went back to jyb (Junkyard Blues Club Site Here) Hung out . A few days later I met a girl. We danced once. It was about a week later I  was waiting for her when out of the blue this gorgeous avatar asked me to dance. OMG! She was so cool and a bit of a star in jyb! Guess what? I refused said I was waiting for someone could I take a rain check? OMG OMG OMG>  My date never turned up. A few days later she was there again ( she was always there) . I said to her it had stopped raining Dance? She said YES!.

 

 

XoXo ( won’t use real names ) was awesome we got on really well. We started spending a lot of time together. She was great. Taught me loads of stuff. Bought me clothes. I used to get into a terrible mess so I gave her my password and she dressed me. She also tidied my inventory! Wow I fell for her, she fell for me. Heres a pic:

We were cool. We had a bit of sex. Not much. We were inseparable. We talked about partnering. I was 3 weeks old, she 3 years. I felt it wasn’t appropriate to ask her to be my partner before I was 30 days old. So I waited a week. On my 30th I dressed in my Tuxedo. I had a short speech prepared and a ring, with a posing stand where I could get down on one knee. (I had been practising the timing and the spot for hours so it would be right.) I had the sl partner proposal ready. Btw when you partner it goes in the front of your profile. I went to Tempura, Japanese sim to a spot that had a wonderful backdrop and the sea in front. I summoned her, she came and I proposed.  She accepted.

[At this time I was not aware of the time compression that works within sl. You may think me foolish .but I had not been in love for 20 years. Here I was in love with a pretty Avatar. It was a fantasy but I knew there was a person pulling the puppets strings. We exchanged rl information and pictures. She was cool.Was I blinded by the “game”?]

Halcyon days. We looked at houseboats but she said they weren’t private enough so we got ourselves an island in jyb. We put up our national flags, She helped me buy a motorcycle. I put in my profile:

First there was me , my bike and the blues. Then I met XoXo. When she’s not here, well I don’t think I ever understood the blues before.

Something like that. Everyone in jyb congratulated us. Great I was really part of the family. She had a sail boat and we would sail to the jyb dance floor. (I couldn’t use it when she wasn’t around so I bought myself one. ) Some evenings we would just sit on our island  on the porch and share videos. It was magic. Then we had an argument. In sl you have a viewer to run the world. The standard one is Phoenix, it is old. The new one is Firestorm. Firestorm was talked about a lot and everyone was using it so I did too. I suggested she did too. She refused. I left it for a bit then something came up and I was a bit firm and told her she was being silly. She was not  pleased, I tried talking to her but she got mad and said  it obviously wasn’t working between us. I asked her to think about it and she POOFED. (went offline). I was a bit upset but surely once she gave it some thought it would be ok. I got in my boat and moored off the island and waited. She came back an hour later saying she had been on skype with her daughter. I asked her what about us? She said it isn’t working and ; Boom XoXo has dissolved your partnership. Boom XoXo is no longer your friend Boom XoXo has ejected you from her group. Boom. I collected my pelican and my bike, my worldly goods. I was totally overwhelmed. We had said this was long term, we partnered. Fuck. I was destroyed.

I didn’t sleep that much that night. The next day I tried to go to jyb but she turned up. I got in my boat and moored  just out of sight and listened to her chat with all her friends, as though nothing had happened. I sat in my boat and I cried and cried and cried. My heart was broken . Rl heart.

I was still upset the next day but I had no home so I looked at the  houseboats. They were great so I rented one. Slowly I began to recover and started going back to jyb. I felt foolish. Very.

I recovered slowly. I loved my houseboat I bought peacocks. I started hanging out confidently in jyb. Ahh the blues and the people were appreciating me in my own right. As  I have said I am a biker, have been in rl since my 30s. I had my bike.

Interlude

My Profile

In sl we each have a profile which can be accessed by right clicking on the avatar. It is made up of three elements, a picture, the groups you belong to (you can have 42) and some text. People will write here their attitude if you like to sl. Mine says :

Latest Motto: Live Fast Ride Hard, Die Laughing.. I’m English we tend to make fun of things we love. I met a Valkyrie she is my gf. she sometimes appears as an Angel

I  live by the four Brahma Viharas, (Dwelling Places of God) : Friendliness, Compassion, Equanimity and Sympathetic Joy.

“The moving finger writes and having writ moves on. Nor all your piety nor wit can lure it back to cancel half a line nor all your tears wash out a word of it.”

Italics mine.

You can also see if payment  info has been used and if the avatar has a partner. The  next tab is web where you can put a web site address. I have my own. The next tab is interests where you can put your sl skills, dreams,  etc etc. Apart from the front page what is perhaps most interesting is your PICKS. Here you put what turns you on in sl. Clubs, things people. At the bottom is a teleporter to the place you have  picked. So dear readers in sl you can perve people and see who they are and what they hold dear in sl.

 Partner 2

I went to other clubs of course but I always found myself back at jyb. I used to park my bike on the dock and lie on it.Listening to the music looking cool. YES I know but I did. Look at me. lolol. Great bike. Anyway I started perving the pretty avatars. i was too scared to speak to them. I was feeling pretty negative about myself.Perhaps someone else would ask me to dance. No way would I ask them. I had no friends. XoXo was there.  I offered  her friendship saying no hard feelings lets at least stay friends….she declined. “I know how to think, I know how to wait…” Adapted from Siddhartha …Hesse. There was this one lady, Xaxa. She was , her avatar was, so beautiful. And very popular, being greeted by everyone when she came onto the dance floor.You may think dear readers that falling in love with an avatar a mere cypher is strange. However a beautiful avatar wearing beautiful clothes, well groomed, nice hair  who chats intelligently, has an interesting and well thought out profile is very real. Indicative of an attractive mind. So a persons avatar is a representation of that person. Xaxa had a beautiful profile. She always had a dance partner but had no partner so was safe to talk to, If I dared. I chickened out. She was way out of my league. Then one day there were not so many people around and she was dancing alone.

I perved her picks. WOW she was a biker! I teleported to the crater but there was nothing there. I sent her an im asking if there was a club house and how I went about joining. I told her I had read what she had written and agreed to it. She told me her sister was President.  Did I have a problem with that? No way. I have been a champion on Women s Rights since uni. I didn’t flirt she would be never be  interested in me. Then I received a Join notice. OMG she was letting me into her club. This was great. We chatted some more. I plucked up my courage ” Its ok you can refuse but I would love to dance with you. Please don’t worry you can say no, I won’t be offended” She said yes.

I won’t bore you with the details of our romance but we fell in love and partnered. She was Dutch. And had done modelling in rl. She became mijn klein muis, my little mouse. She bought land and put it in both our names. We called it Elysium. I blogged about it. I created a story where I was a traveller searching for the Fabled Elysium. You see with Xaxa I thought I had found it. We were so happy and we were living in paradise.

Here is the first entry of the blog>>>>>>>>>>

 

 

 

My quest began from the shores of Ireland, a fair country, but I was a stranger there. England held no allure. As is the English temperament, I set off in my small skiff to find the fabled Isles of The Blessed, Elysium. I had few markers except a good heart, a bold nature and perhaps a dream of finding a home where I could at last rest from my wanderings. After many trials, too numerous to mention (and a siren best forgotten) I sighted smoke. I had read of Mt Toba in my Encyclopedia Geographica…It says this briefly:

The Toba supereruption (Youngest Toba Tuff or simply YTT[1]) was a supervolcaniceruption that is believed to have occurred some time between 69,000 and 77,000 years ago at Lake Toba (Sumatra, Indonesia). It is recognized as one of the Earth‘s largest known eruptions. The related catastrophe hypothesis holds that this event plunged the planet into a 6-to-10-year volcanic winter and possibly an additional 1,000-year cooling episode. This change in temperature is hypothesized to have resulted in the world’s human population being reduced to 10,000 or even a mere 1,000 breeding pairs, creating a bottleneck in human evolution.

Not daunted by this world killer I sailed on. I had heard that Elysium was protected, so the volcano did not surprise me. In my British manner I told myself “It’s only a volcano” I would sail around it. Then I sighted land. My journey had taken 47 days. I secured the skiff at a small dock, raised the flag and lit a fire. Toba grumbled behind me. Here is a pic:

Elysium?

I was weary so I layed by the fire and dreamt a dreamless sleep. My thoughts drifted…was this the fabled isles created by the gods where heroes were reborn? Had I reached my journeys end? Could I at last find peace…….

I awoke just after dawn and despite Toba’s intermittant roars I felt wonderfully rested. I began the day with such high spirits….I felt alive!!! I wasn’t hungry or thirsty which was very strange. The air was ennervating!

I looked around. I was stunned. A white yacht was moored close to me. There was a house but such a house! It looked Italian with its tiled roof and stone walls. There were palms and a waterfall….high cliffs surrounded the isle. This was somebodys home, I dare not trespass, yet it seemed to be empty…I would explore!!! Here is a pic of what I saw:

First look at this new island

I wandered up to the house perhaps someone was home? It was magnificent. There was a fearsome looking beast guarding the entry. The gate was locked. I could hear bird song and the splashing of water. A brightly coloured parrot flew around. Then another parrot came and sat on my sholder occasionally looking at me quizzically. Ha! A friend already! I named him JD after a pirate I had crossed swords with. Here is a pic:

The House

The house was so beautiful, the trees gently swaying in the light breeze. Who could own such a palace in the middle of nowhere? Who owned the beautiful white yacht, where was the captain? Then I noticed there was a light surrounding me, it had appeared this morning it seemed ..no it could not be…it seemed to be emanating from me!!! I wandered on towards a cry I had heard before but could not place…..

Peacocks! Two blue ones and a white one. I stood very still not wanting to frighten them. They completely ignored me as if i belonged here? Very strange. I was about to move on when the white one spread her wings. I was struck dumb! I pulled out my camera to take another pic. I succeded!

White Peacock

Where was I? What was this paradise? Who owned it? Is this Elysium?

I would explore more! I wandered straight ahead to the waterfall, More surprises, ridiculous surprises, two white swans,,,on a tropical island,,,I rubbed my eyes, yes they were still there, it was tho some god or godess or magician had conjured the beautiful things from our planet and placed them here,, Yes of course I took a picture! When I get home (whenever that would be,,,my own island perhaps? Like this? The thought of another sea voyage was daunting) when I get “home” I would have proof that a paradise existed, not for mortals perhaps, I took a pic,

I moved to my rightI saw something…A statue? Yes a statue of THE BUDDHA! What was He doing here I thought. It was a genuine statue too not some cheap plaster fake. There was a green ball at my feet I looked down to read the writing Tai something? I leaned closer and touched it. Some force took a hold of me, moving me. My shorts vanished and and and I was dressed in a kimono!?!?!? I had swords! Two of them, one at my waist the other on my back. I had become a samurai! I was moving so gracefully, I had no control, I was dancing. No not dancing..o my god it was Tai Chi! I had watched the chinese in Hong Kong (British colony in those days) I was doing Tai Chi dressed as a Samurai in front of the Buddha …I watched, I was transported. I had lived in Japan, these were katana proper warrior swords. I looked closely, silktop, the hakama (skirt to those less well informed) looked like fine cotton. on my feet I had zouri, warrior class sandles, not peasant sandles, these were laqured. The attention to detail astounded me.Don’t believe me? Look at this:

Samurai Buddhist Tai Chi

I did nothing. I thought nothing. My mind rested in a calm I had never really known. My half closed eyes could see the Buddha, the waterfall. There was no sound except the rushing falling of water. The faint peacock cry reminded me of beauty, I too was beautiful. I felt…no I didn’t feel I was empty……my eyes closed everything faded into stillness, there was no time, I had transcended time. I was at peace.

When I came back, how long had it been? Hours? Days? I had no idea. I was floating in front of the Buddha. It was night. I was floating. I WAS FLOATING! About two feet above the ground. Of course I recorded such a phenomenon.

Floating

END OF FIRST POST >>>BLOG IS HERE

I had found Elysium dear readers with a Goddess called Xaxa. Then I had a low, a bipolar low. I sat on the floor and cried for 4 days and 4 nights without eating or sleeping. I was NOT going to hospital. Oh Lord its bad. I staggered round to a friends house and got fed, got showered took loads of meds and was put to bed. Three days later I was back with Xaxa. Phew Pause:

 

She was ok with my madness. Was warm and caring. When we were chatting I asked her about her computer. She said her browser was Google. Hmmm Google is a search engine. She was using Internet Explorer …I cringed. I dropped that browser in 1996. I tried to explain Firefox was better. Nope she would not listen. I explained I was a qualified computer teacher with 16 year experience. Nope she had her browser and would not change. Oho…..shades of XoXo. I shut up. A few days later we bought a lovely TV while installing it the manufacturers saif This won’t work with Internet Explorer its crap  get  Firefox. You know what she said? ” I must get Firefox”. I was so so hurt. She would listen to the TV guy but not to her Partner. The last 16 years of my life were of no value to her. I felt lost. I had nothing to offer. Elysium was about a 1000 prims I had contributed 60. This wasn’t a partnership. I went and sat on my log next to my flag and was very sad. I asked her why the TV guy was more knowledgeable than me?  She said she was a proud independent woman and took no orders from a man. She went her own way. BUT BUT BUT ….there was no talking to her. I poofed.

I thought abot this and I thought hmm ok I’ll win her round somehow. I logged back in ..AND Elysium was gone! Only a gully. All my stuff had been returned to my inventory. My office I had so lovingly created. Then I looked in my profile. NO NO NON NO I had no partner! Mijn klein muis was gone.

Epilogue

I didn’t cry this time I bought an Island. With 1500 prims of my owm.

Over the next week we started chatting. I offered her friendship she accepted. We both cried a little, we both agreed we still loved each other cared for each other. I invited her to my island, we got undressed a bit. We chatted. It felt good. I joked “Have you got Firefox yet? Hahahaha”. Oh dear she got all serious and POOFED.

She has a new partner now. Really a nice guy. Xaxa and I are very good friends. She is my Pres , my sister, I’m sargent at arms. No regrets. Muis!

Catty (gf) Me and Pippi (peacock)

 

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The Chat Room

Second Life’s (sl) Chat room s divided into three elements in two windows. On the right is the name of the instigator :

LOCAL is where everyone in the local area chats. Friends and Instant Messages are displayed under local. Instant Messages are either between a person to a person or from a group you have joined.

In a chat room many abbreviations are used. Here is a taste:

TIME STAMP  NAME OF SPEAKER CONTENT   | EXPLANATION

[11:23 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: ✰↑Good Morning↑✰   |
[11:23 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: ….҈Bonjour…
[11:23 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: ☼Hola☼A    | THIS IS CALLED A GESTURE. It is activated by a forward slash followed be an abbreviation
[11:23 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: ✪ お早うございます ✪   |In this case it is /gm = good morning
[11:23 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: ૐ Namaste ૐ
[11:23 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: Hey
[11:23 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: My rl & sl are fuseed   | rl = real life sl = second life fuseed = a spelling mistake for fused
[11:24 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: Fused* | A correction format  = word plus *
[11:24 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: brb   brb = be right back
[11:24 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ:  •✖•【 Huггץ  ßαck 】•✖• n | People in chat will say hb = hurry back or use a hb gesture
[11:25 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: ……………doin stuff in rl or sl | an explanation
[11:25 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: .
[11:25 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: .
[11:25 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: back   | You announce your return
[11:26 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: ㋡ ->>༶|♫  Ŵëℓƈøмε ßαςк!!  It JuSt WaSn’T ThE SaMe WiThOuT YoU!! ☆|༶<<-㋡ A welcome back gesture
[11:26 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: ty  | ty = thank you
[11:26 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ:    _      _                       _        _
[11:26 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ:    |  |   |  |                     |  |     |  |       | A WOOT gesture indicating happiness
[11:26 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ:    |  |   |  |   ___    ___  |  |_   |  |
[11:26 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ:    |  |/\|  | /  _  \ / _  \ |  __|  |  |
[11:26 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ:    \   /\   /  (_)  |  (_)  |  |_    |_|
[11:26 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ:     \/   \/  \___/\___/ \__|   (_)
[11:27 PM]  ĐŲĐĘ: Thes ar Gestures ok going to do my blog brb….
[11:27 PM]  Ðäńńęţţę ℱιяєℓутє is Offline  | In the local chat box I receive notification if a friend is online or offline

 

Here is a picture of the interface. Yes my partner and I are lying naked in bed.

The Chat window bottom left the avatar window various interface HUDS top right is a notification.

Getting the idea?

THE CHAT WINDOW :

lhs the Person or group who are chatting…You click on  them to chat to them using the by typing in the “click here to chat bar” The highlighted ones mean there is new chat you have not seen. The local chat which is being displayed is chat that is going on in your local environment. See the notification of who is  on line. These are your friends.

Chat in local requires concentration as there maybe numerous threads.

This will help in a chat room >>>>>>….hmmm wait a sec…..

 


 

 

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Hello world! Its Dude

Now who is my audience? The general public? Ok An explanation for the GP. Second Life is a chat room.  It has sims, Areas where people go to meet. There is often music there, with a live DJ. You are an avatar. You can dance by yourself with  someone or as part of a group dance. You chat. You can own your own place. oh my good god watch a vid. My Island Paradise .

 

It is possible to have partners. I have one.

 

[04:19 AM]  ĐŲĐĘ:  ╔╦═╦╗───╔╗╔╗────╔╗
[04:19 AM]  ĐŲĐĘ:  ║║║║╠═╦═╣╚╝╠═╦═╗║║
[04:19 AM]  ĐŲĐĘ:  ║║║║║╬║╬║╔╗║╬║╬║║║
[04:19 AM]  ĐŲĐĘ:  ╚═╩═╩═╩═╩╝╚╩═╩═╝╠╣
[04:19 AM]  ĐŲĐĘ:  ────────────────╚╝

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